Happy Father’s Day 2018

For those of us who are blessed to have fathers and extra blessed to have grandfathers, Father’s Day is a special day.  My brother Wayne and I have been blessed to have a wonderful father who is our #1 cheerleader!  Many of my friends were also raised by outstanding fathers.  I have to say the essential thing that makes a father great is that he complements a mother’s love.  My mom and dad have been complementary for 60 years.  Wayne and Marcia are on their way to similar success.

My father has always exclaimed the importance of mothers.  His relationship with Granny was special and his success is a prime example of what a man can attain with the love and devotion of a great mother.  Wayne and I are blessed to also have such a mother.

Many of the people I’ve met over the years have been raised in single mother households.  My father served as a wonderful example and filled a void for many of my friends who were fatherless or lost their fathers.  Now my father is teaching many of them how to be a grandfather.  As I am 60 years old now (grandfather age), many of my friends are embracing grandfatherdom.  Especially in the black community, grandfathers are a prize and supreme blessing.

We are living in trying times now and witnessing some disturbing things that are happening that go against the values of our forefathers.  Our country is one founded by immigrants and dreamers.  Our country has the reputation of being the place where dreams come true (the “American dream”).  It’s a place that should embrace everyone!  Surely, our immigration laws and policies need to be changed.  People still come and risk their lives to come here because of how we promoted ourselves.  Surely, we can come to a more humanitarian resolution for our current Dreamers and other immigrants.  Our President is supposed to serve as a symbol of the best of what our forefathers envisioned.  Can Donald Trump truly be considered the father symbol of our entire nation?  I THINK NOT!  It’s up to our democratic society to save us from his shortcomings and lead our nation to GREATNESS.

For those of you who are fathers, always strive to be great and look towards your own great examples to figure out how.  Observe and listen to your children and consider their happiness and accomplishments as indicators of how great you’re doing.

Dad, I was blessed to have a great father!  I love you and thank you so much!!

Father’s Day 2012

Happy Father’s Day.  Once again, my favorite time of the year: Mother’s Day, graduation, my nephew’s birthday, the California primary, and Father’s Day.  I’m so blessed to have such a stellar father in my life.  He defies all the stereotypical perceptions of what an African American father should be in so many ways.  But he’s always been that way.  He’s charted his own course through a variety of life circumstances.  Adaptability, consistency, and determination are tendencies and talents that’s he combined to live an accomplished life.  It takes that type of person to inspire, encourage, and promote fatherhood and manhood to all the people that he’s encountered.  I’m blessed to have him and my brother as examples of fatherhood, brotherhood, and friendship.  I look around me and see that having them in my life has enabled me to attract similar people in my friends and associations.  Most of my considerable number of acquaintances are good fathers and have had good influences in their lives.

I think it’s important that you express appreciation to the fathers, uncles, brothers, and friends in your life that have provided comfort, support, and inspiration to you.  This greeting goes out to my considerable influences and comrades.  Thank you for your example and your encouragement.  It inspires and motivates me to see you with your families and activities in your community.  Times like this call for comfort, support, encouragement, and enthusiasm from the men and women that mean the most to us in our lives.  Those efforts should be acknowledged and encouraged.

Thank you Dad for providing me a frame of reference and a means to advise good fatherhood.  I love you all.

Our country will be looking for a father figure of sorts in November.  I’m hoping that you will look kindly on our current President, another dedicated father.  Let’s give him four more years and a chance to complete his mission and get our country moving in a better direction.

Fathers, Sons, Brothers, Uncles and Friends

Being 50, mortality is more than just looming in the future. It’s all around, inside and out, the way you feel when you get up in the morning, when you bend down to pick up a child or put on your shoes. This is to the fathers, grandfathers, sons, brothers, and friends, in various states of good health and bad, leaving, or even passing on before us. Those of us blessed to have these people in our lives and to share memories of them from our past wouldn’t be the same without them.

A number of my good friends have lost loved ones in the past couple of years. Recently, one of my best friends and brothers, Baron Farwell, lost a father that he considered a hero and his beloved. I know that same feeling. I also know a few brothers/friends who have lost their fathers. They can all identify with that unique and special feeling of grief that comes from the loss of a father or mother figure in our lives. I know one of the things that makes me feel closest to Baron is the type of feelings we share and the family/cultural values that we have in common from our parents. Baron taught me so much in the 36 years we’ve known each other. Much of the wisdom, guidance, loyalty, commitment, and trustworthiness that he shared with me I’m sure he learned from his father, as I have from mine. We have been blessed to have them in our lives. I am particularly blessed because I have a number of friends that share the experience of the influence of father/brother figures in our lives. It’s no coincidence that most of us that share some spiritual fateful belief consider a father figure as the focal point of that faith. Mothers are devine. They have a special relationship to all of us. But father figures, when we have them, add stability, confidence, assertiveness, strength, and tenderness. That means a lot to the development of our characters and personalities.

I’m going to miss Mr. Farwell, but I’ll be forever thankful to him for giving me and all of us Baron and the number of siblings that he raised and mentored. Baron will be teaching me the grace that it takes to endure mortality as he grieves the loss of his father. Me, my brother, my family, and countless friends and relatives will be there to support him in this effort. His father will be teaching us one last vital lesson, as we experience the dignity and grace of his family as they endure this substantial challenge. No doubt, he has prepared them for this, as he has so many other things. Those of us who are blessed to have known him and are blessed to have similar influences in our lives will learn this lesson also. Let us reach out to those father/mother figures in our lives that mean so much to us and show them our appreciation. Give them our love and acknowledge their importance in our lives. Thank you Ronald Farwell. Rest in peace. Baron and Farwell family, we’re here for you.