For those of us who are blessed to have fathers and extra blessed to have grandfathers, Father’s Day is a special day. My brother Wayne and I have been blessed to have a wonderful father who is our #1 cheerleader! Many of my friends were also raised by outstanding fathers. I have to say the essential thing that makes a father great is that he complements a mother’s love. My mom and dad have been complementary for 60 years. Wayne and Marcia are on their way to similar success.
My father has always exclaimed the importance of mothers. His relationship with Granny was special and his success is a prime example of what a man can attain with the love and devotion of a great mother. Wayne and I are blessed to also have such a mother.
Many of the people I’ve met over the years have been raised in single mother households. My father served as a wonderful example and filled a void for many of my friends who were fatherless or lost their fathers. Now my father is teaching many of them how to be a grandfather. As I am 60 years old now (grandfather age), many of my friends are embracing grandfatherdom. Especially in the black community, grandfathers are a prize and supreme blessing.
We are living in trying times now and witnessing some disturbing things that are happening that go against the values of our forefathers. Our country is one founded by immigrants and dreamers. Our country has the reputation of being the place where dreams come true (the “American dream”). It’s a place that should embrace everyone! Surely, our immigration laws and policies need to be changed. People still come and risk their lives to come here because of how we promoted ourselves. Surely, we can come to a more humanitarian resolution for our current Dreamers and other immigrants. Our President is supposed to serve as a symbol of the best of what our forefathers envisioned. Can Donald Trump truly be considered the father symbol of our entire nation? I THINK NOT! It’s up to our democratic society to save us from his shortcomings and lead our nation to GREATNESS.
For those of you who are fathers, always strive to be great and look towards your own great examples to figure out how. Observe and listen to your children and consider their happiness and accomplishments as indicators of how great you’re doing.
Dad, I was blessed to have a great father! I love you and thank you so much!!
This has been an extraordinary year, filled with both good and bad. We said goodbye to Muhammed Ali, who gave us 74 years of the greatest! Ali, Stevie Wonder, Mandela, and my father have been my guiding lights. I was blessed to meet the first three briefly in my journey. Ali and Stevie always treated me with the greatest kindness, which enabled and encouraged me to believe the good things said about them and the outstanding things they accomplished. Mandela made an extraordinary gesture by acknowledging and greeting me during a major procession when he was being celebrated during his first visit to Los Angeles after being freed in South Africa. That said something to me about him as well as inspired and encouraged my self-worth. Gestures make all the difference in who we are and what we mean to other people and society. Knowing how to accept and interpret gestures makes your relationships more meaningful and satisfying.
My father has made countless gestures to me and my brother and sister in our lives. They have meant so much to me! They have given me joy, strength, and encouragement to accomplish. That’s what fathers and mothers do! It is important that we do our best to let them know how important those gestures are to us.
Last week, we saw the first female presidential nominee from a major political party (which happens to be my party). I am proud and blessed to have witnessed it. She’s not perfect and I don’t agree with everything she’s done or espoused, but she is so overwhelmingly the best choice for our country. What she will be able to accomplish will be of benefit to so many more people than the alternative choice. She is a good friend, a loyal wife, a doting daughter, a good mother, and she is becoming a great grandmother. These things will help her to become a great president! Donald Trump is a formidable man but the President needs to be for the people, for the majority of the people. Hillary will be much better!!
I want to acknowledge the loss of life in Orlando. This is a country where you should be safe, proud, and able to be who you are and express what you like. It’s unfortunate that so many of my gay brothers and sisters lost their lives or were injured by doing that. My prayers go out to them and their families and friends. Ultimately, memories are what we have to satisfy our feelings of loss and help us to reach our best destiny.
This Father’s Day, remember that we all have fathers and mothers given to us by God and we should try our best to remember them, their love, and their sacrifices and be the best people we can be!
Much love always,